Many people are finding themselves alone in such a busy world with little time to meet people of the opposite sex. It's no wonder that we are left wonding how to excel at dating and relationships. Little thought is given to the fact that we should excel in our relationships in a spiritual way as well.
When considering dating you must first allow yourself to become open to the possibility of sharing yourself with someone. If you are single or if you have been single for a time you may be more inclined to being a little self-centered.
When you are in the mode of being alone...naturally you think mostly of yourself and of your needs. It may take some contemplation on your part to discover how you may be alienating others by being unwilling to give of yourself or of your time.
Imagine sharing time with another. Visualize allowing yourself the freedom to say yes to a date when the opportunity does arise.
While living in such a busy world you may have become accustomed to working overtime, going to the gym, going to church or simply going home and relaxing after a hard day at work.
Imagine that you have forfeited some of these activities for a date with someone who has attracted your attention. Visualize being open and flexible towards dating in general.
Perhaps you have met someone who wants to see a movie that you do not want to see. Open up and
allow yourself to enjoy something different. Allow yourself to do something that you may not ordinarily like.
For example, many guys don't like romantic comedies. You might go against the grain and end up enjoying it as well as seeing another unanticipated side of your date!
Opening up spiritually entails exhibiting feelings of love, compassion, understanding, and patience. How often do we meet those who try our patience? How often do we run across those with handicaps, disabilities, bad attitudes and the like?
Our first impression is that we don't want to be involved with anyone who appears to be less. However, many of these people may end up being MORE if you allow them into your life.
This is where love and compassion plays an integral role in our lives. We must learn to love, have compassion for others and to widen our scope of understanding towards humanity.
You may already be involved in a relationship and may simply want to excel spiritually in your relationship or take it to another level.
Yet, we see so many couples who argue consistenly, or who are brassy or sarcastic with each other. Being mean is not the answer. Again, showing love, compassion, understanding and patience will lead to a successful and rewarding relationship.
Listening is very important when considering a potential mate. If you listen to the other person and ask leading questions you will learn a lot about that person. You will learn whether or not the person has the qualities that you are seeking. And, once you have a solid relationship don't stop listening!
If you are interested in eventaully getting married, you might ask your potential mate what marriage means to them. Depending on their answer you will know whether or not to proceed seriously.
Sometimes it is worth just enjoying the moments spent together without regard to ties. Just let a person be who they are and allow youself to be who you are. Just seize the moment and enjoy your life. Without the pressure it may lead to bigger and better things in the future.
You should also ask questions like, 'What do you feel about monogamy?' If the person goes in-depth with an answer you can assume that the person is passionate about their position on the subject.
If they are passionately in favor of it then you can assume they will be a good match if you have strong feelings towards monogamy as well.
The same applies if the person gives a one line answer indicating that they have given little thought to it. This could be an indicator that the person may not necessarily believe strongly in monogamy. Of course, you don't want to end up in a Tiger woods situation whether you are a male or female!
People do change their attitudes, desires, and opinions. What you may encounter in a person today could change into something more pleasant in the future. Sometimes, it takes not being judgmental or pushy for an intimate relationship by allowing the other person space enough to get to know you and for you to get to know them.
You may find that the person begins to warm up to you as they are given the opportunity to see that you are spiritually attuned. They will begin to witness your kindness, love, compassion, and your understanding and patient ways...the great qualities that you possess.
